Let go of the things you can’t control.

The Big (But Slightly Sweary) Revelation

You know those sayings that float around your whole life like annoying fruit flies?

“Everything happens for a reason.”

“Good things come to those who wait.”

“Let go of what you can’t control.”

Yeah. Those.

The ones your mum probably threw at you when you were 15, crying about the boy with bad hair and a faint smell of bad breath who didn’t text you back.

For years, I rolled my eyes at them. Filed them in the utter bollocks category. With everything else people over 18 said 🤦‍♀️

But then I hit my mid-thirties, and something shifted.

It wasn’t like a thunderclap moment of enlightenment but more like a slow dawning, the kind you only notice after your third cup of tea or vodka pick your poison.

Oh shit… this is actually true.

Here’s the kicker:

We can’t control life.

We can’t control the world.

We can’t even fully control our own lives, because other people keep barging in with their dominoes and flicking them over whenever they fancy.

BUT.

(And this is a chunky, all-caps but).

We can control how we react.

That’s it. That’s the tiny, magical pocket of power we actually have.

So now I get it:

I don’t really have a say in what happens. I have a say in how I handle it.

I can either:

A) Cry about it constantly and stress myself into crying like a fucking banshee.

or

B) Surrender. Let go. Stop trying to micromanage the universe like a bossy PA who never gets paid.

And honestly? Option B feels like freedom. Well it does now.

I talk to people all the time who are in that in-between space holding on tight to what they wish they could control, and exhausted from the tug-of-war. If that’s you, I promise you’re not alone. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It means giving yourself some breathing space and God knows we need that!

So here’s my little invitation:

👉 What’s one thing you’re ready to not control anymore? Let’s make letting go a group project!