Tips to Leave a Narcissist in the past.
Lately, so many women have spoke to me about narcissism, and it seems to be a whole pandemic that I understand too well.
I thought I’d do a basic outline but at some point I’ll go into it more in depth, by a case by case basis.
🌸 Narcissism: Why It’s Not Healthy & How to Break Free
Narcissism is a word that gets used a lot these days, but living through it is something else entirely. For those who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist, the effects can be devastating. These connections may start off feeling magical full of charm, attention, and intensity but over time they often reveal themselves to be draining, manipulative, and damaging to self-worth.
Why Narcissistic Relationships Aren’t Healthy
At their core, narcissistic relationships lack balance and empathy. They may involve:
Gaslighting — twisting reality until you begin to doubt yourself.
Control and intimidation — using anger, silence, or guilt to keep you small.
Lack of empathy — your feelings and needs are rarely considered.
The cycle of highs and lows — moments of love-bombing followed by rejection or criticism.
This pattern can leave a person feeling invisible, anxious, and constantly questioning if they are the problem.
Why It’s So Hard to Leave
From the outside, people often ask: “Why don’t you just walk away?” The truth is, it isn’t that simple. Narcissists create what’s known as a trauma bond a powerful emotional attachment formed through cycles of affection and abuse. It’s the push and pull of attention, rejection, and reconciliation that keeps people hooked.
This bond is why leaving can feel almost impossible, even when someone knows the relationship is unhealthy.
How to Begin Breaking Away
Breaking free takes time, compassion for yourself, and often support from others. Some first steps might include:
Recognising the patterns — naming gaslighting, manipulation, or intimidation for what they are.
Building support — connecting with trusted friends, support groups, or professionals who understand narcissistic abuse.
Setting small boundaries — even small acts of saying no or limiting contact begin to restore self-trust.
Reclaiming identity — exploring hobbies, journaling, or activities that remind you who you are outside the relationship.
Seeking professional guidance — therapy or coaching can provide tools for untangling from the trauma bond.
💛 A Final Word
Breaking away from a narcissist is not easy, but it is possible. Healing doesn’t happen overnight, but every step forward is a step back to yourself. You are not too broken, too weak, or too late to start again. You deserve relationships rooted in respect, empathy, and love.
If you’re on this journey and looking for more support, guidance, or simply a safe space to be heard, you’ll find resources on our website.