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Why Talking to Others Matters After Narcissistic Abuse.

Introduction:

Recovering from narcissistic abuse can feel like wandering through a fog because you’ve been bloody blinded for so long. After being manipulated, gaslit, or controlled, it is easy to start doubting yourself I know I did . Sometimes you even catch yourself thinking, “Am I losing it, or is this real?” Spoiler alert: it was real. And here’s something important I’ve learned: connecting with people who get it is one of the fastest ways to start clearing that fog.especially if they’ve been through it and came out the other side.

Why Relating to Others Helps:

1. Validation of Your Reality
   Narcissistic abuse messes with your sense of reality. You replay things in your head, wondering if you’re overreacting. Then you hear someone else say, “Yeah, that happened to me too,” and it hits differently. You realize you are not crazy. Validation isn’t just comforting it’s a lifeline for us in our time of need.

2. Breaking Isolation
   Narcissists love it when you feel alone. That isolation keeps them in control even after you’ve left. Talking to someone who actually understands is like switching on a light in a dark room. Suddenly, you notice other humans exist who survived this stuff too, and it’s a relief.

3. Learning Through Shared Experiences
   Every survivor has a few tricks up their sleeve. Maybe they figured out how to set boundaries, detach emotionally, or rebuild confidence. Hearing what worked for someone else doesn’t mean copying them it means picking up little tools that make your own journey easier.

4. Mental Clarity and Emotional Relief
   When you keep everything bottled up, your mind turns into a replay machine that only plays the confusing, hurtful parts. Talking to someone who listens without judgment gives your brain a breather. You can finally sort out your feelings, understand what happened, and whisper to yourself, “This was not my fault.”

5. Empowerment and Rebuilding Self-Worth
   Relating to others is a reminder that your feelings matter, your voice matters, and your experience matters. Every conversation is a tiny step toward reclaiming your power and building a version of yourself that exists outside the abuse.

A Personal Note From Me:

I know how lonely and messy life feels after narcissistic abuse. Reaching out, even to just one person who will actually listen, is brave. It’s not about asking for advice or approval. It’s about being seen, being heard, and slowly remembering that you are enough even if your inner critic insists otherwise. And trust me, if I can do it, so can you, even on the days you feel like hiding under a blanket with a tub of ice cream (and we’ve all been there!) if you need lean on me 💕